I never understand people that force having their way. It’s always so much better to wait quietly, listen to God and trust in His way and timing. Patience and kindness to others, especially when we disagree, is always best.
Whenever God gives a vision to a Christian, it is as if He puts him in “the shadow of His hand” (Isaiah 49:2). The saint’s duty is to be still and listen. There is a darkness that comes from too much light–that is the time to listen. The story of Abram and Hagar in Genesis 16 is an excellent example of listening to so-called good advice during a time of darkness, rather than waiting for God to send the light. When God gives you a vision and darkness follows, wait. God will bring the vision He has given you to reality in your life if you will wait on His timing. Never try to help God fulfill His word. Abram went through thirteen years of silence, but in those years all his self-sufficiency was destroyed. He got past the point of relying on his own common sense. Those years of silence were a time of discipline, not a period of God’s displeasure. There’s never any need to pretend that your life is filled with joy and confidence; just wait upon God and be grounded in Him. (see Isaiah 50:10-11) — Oswald Chambers, My Utmost for His Highest